Raise your hand if you have tried to manifest something. You said what you wanted, made a list, tried to feel good and do all the things to manifest that goal. … but all you hear is crickets. You thought you were doing the right thing. You were doing all the inner work, creating action, yet at somewhere in your heart, a part of you feels like it is never gonna happen. So you begin to obsess over it. Try to find ways to make yourself feel good because if you do that it will have to come, right?!! Hello, desperation my old friend. Sound familiar? I’m nodding my head because SO often I have done it myself. I have tried so so hard and have gone into what I like to call control overload. At the core, I didn’t believe it was possible for me to receive, so in turn, I tried to control the situation to make sure that it would. … which leads you to a cycle of disappointment, resentment, and frustration.
Which can totally reaffirm those limiting beliefs of yours, right?
So today, I want to talk about the 3 common things I see when we go into control overload.
⠀ 1. Tunnel Vision
When we have tunnel vision, we are only seeing something from one point of view.
We become so fixated on a goal and maybe on the HOW it is all going to happen that we think that it is the ONLY way that it will ever happen for you.
The reality is, there are so many timelines that are possible for you and you can enter into them at any point because we are multi-dimensional. Woah we are about to open a giant can of worms here, but let's continue.
You see we are existing on many planes and many dimensions at once. We have the choice to live out any path that we see fit. Maybe it is one that is very much aligned with who you are at the core, or maybe one (or a few) that is just eh, okay I guess I'll settle for this.
You have the choice to follow what it is that light you up, SO when you begin to take a step back and stop looking only through that one pathway. You are able to see that there is limitless potential on what it is that you want to create.
Ask yourself: Am I only trying to reach _____ through this one way? What would happen if I were to allow myself to see other options?
2. Feelings of anger & resentment if things aren’t going your way or how you planned
Another side effect of control overload is the frustration, the anger, the "Why not me?!!" attitude.
It can be totally disheartening right?! You believe you are doing all the right things, yet it doesn't seem to be panning out so you begin to focus on what isn't working. What isn't happening and allowing these feelings of anger & resentment to take over.
I am in no way saying that these feelings are bad, but rather they can be indicative of wounds we have yet to heal.
I have found that combining subconscious integration like meditations and EFT have helped this by getting to the root of what I am feeling and see it for what it is.
Now, I want to think of what it is you are trying to call in. What would it look like if it came to you? How would you feel? What actions would you take?
Now, start acting like that version. Sure, you may not get what it is that you want right away because you will likely be met with familiarities of your comfort zone (aka what's been keeping you stuck) and you have the choice to move through it with grace and see it's lessons or return to the frustration and anger.
3. Ignoring the bigger picture and only seeing things from the micro-level. ⠀
This one is similar to tunnel vision. For me, it shows up in thinking if I do this thing and here I will get what I need for the week INSTEAD of looking at the bigger picture and how I can work backwards from there.
It can be easy to become obsessive over the small details and what is happening in the here and now that we forget what we are working towards.
Ask yourself: What is your ideal life 5 years from now? How can you break this up into small steps that you can achieve within 3-6 months to move towards that?
When we are stuck thinking in this limited way it shows up. BIG TIME.⠀ ⠀ Take it from me a certified control freak.⠀ ⠀ Maybe it is all the Virgo in my chart that I have a hard time letting go 💁🏼♀️⠀ ⠀ But the past few weeks I have come head to head with them in a bit of a battle. Swords were drawn and everything. ⠀ ⠀ It was a tough fight and sometimes remanents still fire up, but when I am able to let go of control. ⠀ ⠀ I have been able to say:⠀ ⠀ Yes to getting unstuck 💥⠀ ⠀ Yes to trusting my path.⠀ ⠀ Yes to having way more fun 💃⠀ ⠀ Yes to clearing out old energies that don’t serve me.⠀ ⠀ Yes to seeing things more clearly.⠀ ⠀ This is what happens when we begin to take a step back and see how control influences our daily life.⠀ ⠀ This isn’t about becoming perfect and looking to get certain outcomes - it’s about learning to listen to your deepest truths that are innate in your and master YOUR OWN purpose.
And for this month's Full Moon Circle, we are looking at the theme of control & receiving. I will be channeling messages from the Akashic Records on this subject and any questions that go with it. Ready to join? Click here!