The other day I looked at the clock, a slight voice echoed "Oh crap, I am a lil behind" as I look to the clock as it read 9:20. I had to get to work at 9:30. Scrambling to hold together my keys, my soup I packed, as well as a whole slew of things somehow holding their place in my arms, I ran to my car hoping to get to work on time.
Only to realize minute later, I left my phone at home.
I know, I know a real #firstworldproblem.
I was forced to meet the silence of the day, no Instagram Stories to take my mind away during the lulls of the work day.
It was just me and a fantastic soup for 9 hours.
If I am being honest, silence can be uncomfortable. It's just you and your thoughts with no other outlet to hit the ignore button.
Raise your hand if you ever...
Play music or have TV as background noise most of the time
On your phone or social media when you get that ping of boredom
Eat, drink, or numb out when you're feeling stressed
I think we have all been there. It's coping mechanisms so we don't have to deal with what is going on inside or to ignore what is happening around us.
Whether you think silence is an important part to growing your sense of self or you’d prefer to never again stare at the wall in boredom then you’re in the right spot.
In this post, I’m going to share…
My opinions and experiences with using silence as a tool for personal growth
What silence can do for YOU
How to set goals that will work best for you and your self-growth journey
Ultimately, my goal here is to make sure you’re intentional and focused on the right things that will grow you to your highest capability more quickly, rather than focusing on that random person that got famous on tik tok and now is on the Ellen show. 😉
Let’s do this.
FIRST, DO YOU NEED TO BE ON A SOCIAL MEDIA BREAK TO DO THIS?
Okay, let me explain.
With social media, everything is happening at once. It can make us feel like we need to BE everywhere, know what everyone is doing, too, without every considering how it is affecting us.
Don't get me wrong, you can numb through other outlets like food, shopping, drugs, TV ... BUT it is easy to go to your phone when you are feeling bored rather than figure out the WHY behind it.
HERE'S WHY: Social media keeps you coming back for more, so you don't have any FOMO. It is literally designed so you can get all those dopamine hits that keep you scrolling on back for more.
Whenever I have taken a social media break, I have received so much clarity because I am not bogged down by other people's thoughts and ideas.
I mean that is a lot of info you are receiving on the reg.
In my opinion, being on social media too much has caused me a lot of overwhelm and unease because of so many new things popping up at once. It went a little something like this…
So & so is doing this, so I should start that
Why is X doing this and I'm not?
OH my god how did 30 minutes already pass?! I thought it was only 5 minutes
You get the idea.
It can be a whirlpool of *comparisionitis* with a dash of time wasting.
So, I believe that removing distractions like social media, your phone, or whatever numbing technique you use can help you gain clarity and pinpoint triggers that are showing up in your life rather than finding ways to avoid them.
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Okay, Remove Distractions... Now what?
Silence is there to create space, to allow new information to come through.
It's not some empty pit of boredom, even though it can feel like that at time, but rather it can show you:
1. Repetitive Thought Patterns
We all have this inner critic inside of us. You can call it ego, shadow, or whatever suits you, that can put those type of thoughts on replay.⠀ ⠀ And I don't know about you, but the only thing I am wanting on replay lately is T-Swift's new album, not those negative thoughts.⠀
When you begin to become aware of the thought patterns that are on repeat everyday you begin to see where you can heal, where you can grow.
Especially when there are no distractions to keep you from looking at them.
2. What You Are Avoiding or Resisting
Usually, when we self-soothe, it comes from a place of avoidance or resisting something that is happening in our external or internal world.
Resistance is BUILT from:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 1. Fear of the Unknown ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 2. Self-Doubt⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 3. Other's Opinions⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 4. All & Any Other Limiting Beliefs⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ These things make it easy to push aside or not to pay attention to whatever it is that you are being pulled to do (Travel, quit a job, transition in any phase of your life) ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Why? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It's much easier to down a few chocolate bars or play a new game on your phone than it is to face what you are fearing or avoiding in your life.⠀
When we embrace the silence, ditch the technology, we have room. Room for connection and expansion.
To see where things are no longer aligning and where real growth can occur.
So when you allow yourself that time of space, that time to reflect, you are coming face to face with what scares you, with what you have been running away from. Opening a portal for possibility.
Let's Implement This.
Taking time for yourself to sit in the silence rather than run from it is an act of self-love, so when you are ready to have silence be your secret weapon for personal growth, here are a few options...
Turn that phone to airplane mode and get creating
Analyze why you are numbing through social media, tv, food, etc...
Go for a walk without your phone
Go a day "off the grid" aka no phone or other tech.
Trust me when I say change isn't overnight. I mean it can be, BUT I have found it is a culmination of all your practices that gradually occurs in its own natural rhythm.
When you begin to remove the distractions, ask the questions, and look deep within, that is when the door for change unlocks and where the new YOU begins🌱 ⠀