Resistance is defined as an act of opposition. It moving away, avoiding, or pretending that what is happening or what you are being pulled to is not real. Acting a form of protection if you will.
So, I am going to ask you, “What are you resisting?
Is it leaving a relationship, entering into one, quitting a job, looking for a new one, starting a business, moving to a new area? Is it finally admitting to yourself your deepest desires or dreams?
It can be all of these or just one.
I want you to look deeper into which one you are resisting the most right now.⠀⠀⠀
The question of what have I been resisting is, ironically, the one I have been avoiding because I can see clear as day what I am running away from, which is travel. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Specifically, jumping off the cliff and traveling overseas. ⠀
I've never traveled alone, on a plane, or to another country, so the thought of doing just that is a bit terrifying.⠀⠀
However, since I was a young kid I have always loved traveling to different states here in the U.S. After our family week-long trip was over, I was ready to keep going and traveling to a new city, town, and completely be immersed in the new. For a while, the idea of living out of a car and traveling was somewhat appealing to me. ⠀
However, as the family unit got older, things shifted and traveling became less of a priority and more of a necessity. My siblings became interested in club sports, and traveling was now strictly sports related (#boring if you ask me).
My traveling related adventures during this time became HEAVILY reliant on other peoples situations, money, and interests. Slowly coming to a halt of where I would like to go.
So, why am I telling you all of this? ⠀⠀⠀⠀
As you can see from my own example is that resistance is BUILT from:⠀⠀⠀
1. Fear of the Unknown⠀
When you are taking a leap of faith, you are quite literally saying, “I have no idea what is going to happen, but okay let’s do this!” How many of you would like to do that? Probably not many because it is SCARY. The warm sense of familiarity is gone and replaced with something you have yet to imagine. It is taking a stand and becoming completely self-reliant on your own intuition and needs, rather than the needs of others.
Anytime you are about to move into that area of resistance a lot of self-doubts can be brought up. Like questioning, if you are good enough to do this, are you smart enough, are you independent enough, are you just plant and simple enough?
I believe these fears stem from childhood memories that we were programmed to think that we were not good enough either from our parents, peers, society, or even you shaming yourself.
3. Other's Opinions
Telling other people what you want to do or going to do can be a terrifying prospect. Especially if you know there will be little to no support. When we tell others our goals and desires, our wants & wishes they may respond with their own limiting beliefs onto why you should not do so. Reinforcing the doubt that may have already been in your head, talking you out of it.
That’s why I highly recommend only telling people when you are ready because the truth is they may never be.
They may see you doing something that terrifies them and they will try to talk you out of it like they and others have done to them.
When you do, or IF you do, recognize their own projections and do not take them as your own. Stay in your worth.
4. Any Other Limiting Beliefs⠀⠀
Like with self-doubts, other limiting beliefs onto why you shouldn’t or can’t do the thing you are resisting will rise to the surface.
These can be anything you feel pain, shame, or guilt around. For many of us, this can be around money and having a lack mentality around it. Thinking that we will never have enough, we have to hoard it, or conversely spend all of it because we were told that we were not good at saving. Others, it can be for not being smart enough. Maybe it is codependence. All of these things are just limiting beliefs you can transcend either with a professional therapist, journalling & shadow work, or all of the above. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
These four things make it easy to push aside or not to pay attention to whatever it is that you are being pulled to do (Travel, quit a job, transition in any phase of your life) ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
It is the EASY thing to do. It's much easier to make up excuses onto why you can't or shouldn't do something rather than saying FUCK IT and doing it. What if you were to take the chance, to make a change?
I want you to create a list of what you are resisting. Get to the core of why it is that you are so hesitant to do so. As you look at these blocks, I want you to ask yourself what small steps can you take to work through these.
Examples of this can be:
Taking what you have journaled to a therapist or other life coach.
When you feel yourself being pulled into resistance. Pause and place your hands on your heart and come back to the present moment.
Taking one step towards doing the thing you have been running away from.
Focus on what you are gaining. ⠀
So, LET’S CHAT! What are you resisting in your own life? Are you willing to jump off that cliff yet? If not what steps are you going to take to do it? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀